Tuesday, December 30, 2025

Letting Go Experience

 



Dr. Ruwan M. Jayatunge 

The English physician, writer, progressive intellectual, and social reformer Havelock Ellis stated, All the art of living lies in a fine mingling of letting go and holding on. The German poet and novelist Hermann Hesse states that some of us think holding on makes us strong, but sometimes it is letting go.

The concept of "letting go" or relinquishing control has a long intellectual history (Merluzzi & Philip, 2017).  As described by Ainsworth et al. (1982), letting go can simply be being gently drawn into a new sort of existence or being released or dragged into a void where nothing is safe or nothing is consistent. Letting go is a way of letting things be, of accepting things as they are.  (Kabat-Zinn, 1990).

A Letting Go Experience is the conscious, often challenging, process of releasing attachments to past hurts, negative emotions, people, or outcomes that no longer serve you, creating space for healing, growth, and peace by accepting impermanence and focusing on the present.

Letting go is not throwing away or annihilation; it is becoming willing to forgo and moving forward. It is a compassionate act.  It is a pathway to surrender the ego.  Letting go provides an opportunity for growth and clarity of self.  It offers forgiveness. Letting go eliminates the painful past experiences and shame.  It is the emptying of mental clutter. Letting go is replacing resentment with mindful awareness and empathy (Menahem & Love, 2013).  It is a perfect path for healing. This process allows psychological growth. Letting go eliminates the origins of suffering. 

To let go does not mean to get rid of. To let go means to let be. When we let be with compassion, things come and go on their own."Letting go is choosing peace over pain." "Letting go doesn't mean that you don't care about someone anymore. It's just realizing that the only person you really have control over is yourself," as Deborah Reber elucidates. 

Meditation is really letting go of all the thought processes or mind traffic.  Mindfulness can help to achieve a letting-go experience. Ven Ajahn Brahmavamso—a British Theravada Buddhist monk—states that meditation is the way to achieve letting go. According to psychologist Scott Bishop, a major focus of meditation is letting go. In meditation, one lets go of the complex world outside to reach the serene world within. Therefore, letting go is a freeing experience.





තම්බීන් අතර




අතීත සිදුවීමක්. නමුත් අදටත් හෙටටත් ගැලපෙනවා. වරක් මිතුරෙකු සමග අරුගම්බේ ගියා. හෝටල් ෆුල්. ඒ නිසා පානම පැත්තට ගියා. තිබුනා එක හෝටලයක්. යන්තම් කාමර දෙකක් ගත්තා. ඒත් කෑම බීම දෙන්නේ නෑ. අපි ඒ හෝටලයට යන විට මුස්ලිම් සෙට් එකක් හෝටලයේ පිරිලා. සමහරු එලියේ පුටු දාගෙන හයියෙන් කතාව​. කරච්චලයක් වගේ. හයියෙන් දෙමලෙන් කතා කරනවා, මෙතනත් ඇණයක් වගේ. මොනා කරන්නද හොඳ තැනක් හමු වෙනකම් මෙතන ඉන්න වෙනවා.....................  සවස 8 ට විතර අරුගම්බේ ගිහින් රෑට කන්න පික්මී එකක් දාගන්න ගියා. අහල පහල පික්මී නෑ. වීල් එකක් වත් නෑ. කෝකටත් අර මුස්ලිම් සෙට් එකෙන් ඇහුවා  කෑමක් ගන්න පුලුවන් ලඟම තියන හෝටලයට කොච්චර දුරද කියලා. එතකොට කිව්වා කිලෝමීටර් 3 විතර තියනවා කියලා. අලි පාරට එන සීන් එකකුත් තියනව කිව්වා. මාර කේස් එකක්. රෑ කෑම නැතුව නිදා ගන්න වෙන්නේ. අපි එලියේ මේසයක කතා කර කර ඉන්නවා. දැන් රෑ නමයට විතර ඇති. අර මුස්ලිම් සෙට් එකේ හිටපු තොප්පිය දාගත්ත කෙනෙක් ආවා. ඇවිත් බත් පැකට් එකක් මගේ අතට දුන්නා " මේක කන්න අපි බත් පැකට් ගෙනාවා , අපිට මදි වෙන එකක් නෑ කියලා. මට කෑම පැකට් එක ගන්නත් මොකක්ද වගේ. ඕගොල්ලන්ට මදි වෙයිද ? කියලා ඇහුවා. " ප්‍රශ්නයක් නෑ අපි කන්ඩායමක් ඉන්නවා , ඕගොල්ලෝ කන්න"  කියලා බත් පැකට් එක ගන්න කිව්වා. ස්තූති කරලා ඒ බත් පැකට් එක අපි එදා රෑ කෑවා. උදේ ඔවුන් හිටපු කාමර වලට ගියා යලිත් වරක් ස්තූති කරන්න අපේ බඩගින්න නිව්වට. ඒත් ඔවුන් පිටත් වෙලා....................... මම සහරාන්ලාගේ අන්තවාදී ඉස්ලාමය විවේචනය කරනවා, ඒ පිලිබඳ ලියනවා. නමුත් මනුෂ්‍යත්වය හදවතේ තියන මුස්ලිම් සහෝදරයන් පිලිබඳවත් අපි ලියන්න ඕනේ. මේ වගේ සරල මිනිස්සු ලඟ තමයි ඉස්ලාමයේ සාරය තියෙන්නේ. අපි ඔවුන්ව අමතක කරලා ටෝච් ගහලා පෙන්නන්නේ සහරාන්ලාව​. 




Monday, December 29, 2025

Cyber Dyslexia




Dr. Ruwan M Jayatunge

Cyber dyslexia appears to be a distinct phenomenon that has yet to be fully recognized. This term refers to the unique challenges that individuals with dyslexia face when interacting with digital platforms, including navigating websites and understanding complex cybersecurity measures. I hope that future research will delve deeper into this uncommon condition. 

My personal experience with what I believe to be cyber dyslexia began in 2006 at Brisbane Airport, where I struggled to modify my flight dates online—a task that should have been straightforward. I found myself grappling with complex menu structures, transferring information across various digital formats, and experiencing fatigue from multi-step processes. 

During my time at York University, I frequently relied on friends for assistance with the Moodle learning management system. Initially, they assumed my challenges stemmed from a lack of technical skills, but they later recognized that I faced a different issue, which led to their understanding and support. I consider this a form of disability, yet I am confident in my ability to overcome it. 

To better understand my struggles, I engage in self-observation during IT-related tasks, documenting my difficulties and the anxiety they provoke. Over the years, I have employed various self-help strategies, such as practicing mindfulness, focusing on one task at a time, and utilizing information scaffolding. I firmly believe that cyber dyslexia is a condition that can be managed and overcome.






Sunday, December 28, 2025

The last Kennedy icon

 



by Dr. Ruwan M. Jayatunge

Edward Moore Kennedy was a leading figure in the United States Senate. He served as a US senator since 1962 and served under 10 presidents—from John F. Kennedy to Barack Obama. Although he never had a chance to become the president, Ted Kennedy was one of the most influential figures respected by people around the world. He inspired the public through his commitment to social justice. He was a humanist and democratic personality who earned respect from all across the globe.

Edward Kennedy was one of the longest-serving members of the United States Senate in American history. In 2006, Time magazine named him as one of America’s “Ten Best Senators,” saying that he had “amassed a titanic record of legislation affecting the lives of virtually every man, woman, and child in the country.”

He was the last of the famous Kennedy brothers. In his personal life, he was devastated over the death of three of his own brothers. His elder brother, Jo Kennedy, died in WW2, John Kennedy was shot in Dallas, and Robert Kennedy was assassinated in California. His political path was filled with numerous obstacles.

Edward Kennedy made his maiden speech to the Senate on the Civil Rights Act of 1964, which outlawed segregation in public accommodations. It was a huge leap forward against racial discrimination in America. Kennedy was a strong supporter of the school reforms and elevation of the education system. His contribution helped to uplift the quality of school education.

He did not betray his conscience when the Vietnam question occurred. He openly questioned the Vietnam War. Edward Kennedy was a visionary and realized the emptiness of the Vietnam War was like his brother JFK. America’s involvement in the war in Vietnam, Senator Kennedy called on President Nixon to begin an immediate drawdown of US forces in that region. In his speech, Senator Kennedy argued that “American youth are too valuable to be sacrificed for a false sense of military pride.” This was one of the unique examples of his political maturity and willingness to coexist with other nations despite the political differences.

Kennedy was one of the first in Congress to speak out against going to war with Iraq. He took a gigantic step in September 2002. When the Bush administration was preparing to go to war in Iraq without the support of the international community, Senator Kennedy, in a historic speech at Johns Hopkins School of Advanced International Studies, was the first to argue that Iraq did not pose the type of threat that justified immediate war. Senator Kennedy argued that America should not rush to war. After a few years the American public realized the true meaning of his words when the nation was struck by the repercussions of the Iraqi war and the economic crisis.

Senator Kennedy could understand the contribution made by the immigrants to the US economy. In 2006, Senator Kennedy introduced a bill to reform America’s immigration laws and to bring fairness and justice to immigrant families. He fought for fair immigration reforms.

His life was like a roller coaster, ups and downs. He faced a bitter impeachment over the accidental death of Mary Jo Kopechne. In his 1991 speech at Harvard, Edward Kennedy did something that politicians from our part of the world would not even think of doing. He admitted that he was not a saint and had made human mistakes in the past. Addressing the crowd, he stated that—

“I recognize my own shortcomings, the faults and the conduct of my private life. I realize that I alone am responsible for them, and I am the one who must confront them.”

He was a master orator who spoke from his heart. In June 1968, at the eulogy for Robert F. Kennedy, Edward Moore Kennedy made an outstanding emotional speech.

He said:

My brother need not be idealized or enlarged in death beyond what he was in life to be remembered as a good and decent man who saw wrong and tried to right it, saw suffering and tried to heal it, and saw war and tried to stop it.

Those of us who loved him and who take him to his rest today pray that what he was to us and what he wished for others will someday come to pass for all the world. As an international political icon, Edward Kennedy played an important role during the independence of Bangladesh and brought peace to Northern Ireland.

Kennedy strongly supported Sinn Féin leader Gerry Adams coming to the Democratic stream. After these successful interventions, Protestant paramilitaries announced their own cease-fire.

He was a down-to-earth politician who showed enormous empathy for common people. His exceptional ability as a politician, with inspired admiration, respect, and devotion, flowed beyond the borders of America. Edward Kennedy was best known as one of the most outspoken and effective politicians of our time.


"I" (self) is a Mirage or an Illusion Created by the Mind

 



 

Dr. Ruwan M Jayatunge

Self-awareness is one's capacity for self-directed knowledge, and self-awareness is the mind becoming its own object.  However, in contemporary neuroscience and traditional philosophy, the concept of the "I" is often regarded as an illusion or mirage, as it lacks a stable, physical foundation and serves primarily as a mental construct. Neuroscience increasingly describes the "self" not as a physical entity, but as a dynamic informational entity. The brain acts as a "prediction machine," constantly generating a "self-model" to anticipate internal bodily needs (interoception) and external social threats.

Neuroscientific research suggests that the self emerges from complex brain processes rather than existing as a singular, cohesive entity. Instead, the self can be understood as an ongoing narrative that the brain constructs to weave together diverse sensory, emotional, and cognitive inputs into a unified experience. Thus, the sense of self is a mental fabrication, an effective organizational mechanism, but not a standalone, enduring reality.  


Self-awareness in Children

Jean Piaget's theory of cognitive development posits that a child's self-concept is shaped through active interaction with their environment, advancing through four universal stages from infancy to adolescence. This framework is fundamental for understanding the formation of the self, as Piaget argued that self-concept is not innate but rather a cognitive structure that develops progressively through these distinct stages.

From the moment of birth, infants possess the ability to distinguish between touches they initiate themselves and those that come from external sources. For instance, newborns tend to turn their heads more towards an external stimulus, such as a gentle touch on the cheek, rather than their own hand making contact with their face. This marks the initial awareness of their separateness from caregivers. By the age of 5 to 6 months, infants begin to recognize themselves as distinct individuals, realizing that their actions can influence their environment, such as kicking a mobile to make it move. By 18 months, many infants successfully pass the "Mirror Test," demonstrating an understanding that the reflection they see is themselves and not another child.  


How the Brain Constructs a Sense of Self?

Contemporary research indicates that the sense of "I" arises from intricate neural networks and brain activity. This sense of self is not a singular occurrence but rather a dynamic, layered process that unfolds continuously. The brain constructs identity by merging physical sensations with psychological experiences, creating a cohesive narrative. Functional MRI studies reveal that the brain regions associated with the self and close relationships often overlap, implying that our understanding of "I" is intrinsically linked to our connections with others.


The Hippocampus and Its Role in Self-Identity

The hippocampus is vital for self-identity.  The hippocampus plays a crucial role in shaping self-identity by integrating elements of space, time, and memory to create a coherent personal narrative. It serves as the primary center for developing an individual's life story, going beyond mere fact storage to construct a stable and unified account of one's experiences. The functionality of the hippocampus is often centred on enhancing the capacity to formulate meaningful and effective personal narratives.

 

The insula's role

The insula is the brain's primary receiver for interoception—the sense of the internal state of the body. It monitors heart rate, lung expansion, and gut signals. By constantly tracking these "life signals," the insula provides the most basic level of selfhood: the feeling of being a living, breathing organism. The insula is involved in a wide variety of functions, ranging from sensory and affective processing to high-level cognition, such as processes constituting the self.

 

The Role of the Anterior Precuneus (aPCu)

The anterior precuneus (aPCu) forms the physical and spatial sense of self. The anterior precuneus (aPCu) is situated in the medial parietal lobe, nestled between the two hemispheres of the brain. This region is recognized as the central hub for the physical sense of self, often referred to as the "I." It plays a crucial role in a neural network, integrating sensory data to create a cohesive mental representation of the body's position and movement in space. By processing information related to location, motion, and the positioning of muscles and joints, the aPCu helps maintain a three-dimensional understanding of the body. It serves as a physical anchor for consciousness, and when its activity is disrupted, individuals may experience self-dissociation, leading to sensations of floating, falling, or a disconnection from their own identity. The aPCu is particularly well-defined in non-human primates, including macaque monkeys and chimpanzees.

 

The Experience of Self and Time

Neuroscience postulates that the concepts of self and time are intertwined rather than separate entities, functioning as two facets of a singular mental construct. The brain integrates these elements to form a cohesive "theater of experience." Humans possess a distinctive capability known as "autonoetic consciousness," which allows them to mentally navigate both memories and future possibilities. Central to this process is the sense of "I," which acts as the focal point within this dynamic framework. As this framework shifts, the brain continuously refines the self-model, fostering the perception of a stable "I" that traverses an ever-changing landscape of time.

 

Buddha's Teaching of Anattā (non-self)

The Buddha, a prominent early advocate of the no-self doctrine, articulated the concept of Anatta, which posits that the notion of "I" is merely an illusion created by the interplay of five aggregates: physical form, sensations, perceptions, mental formations, and consciousness. This illusion resembles a mirage, appearing substantial from afar but revealing its fragmented nature upon closer examination. Central to this teaching is the idea of Sakkāya Diṭṭhi, or the belief in a permanent self, which the Buddha refuted by asserting that there is no enduring essence within us. Instead, what we perceive as the self is a transient amalgamation of ever-changing physical and mental elements, shaped by various causes and conditions.

  

Milinda Nagasena Debate- The Chariot Metaphor

The dialogue between King Milinda, known as Menander I of Greece, and the monk Nāgasena took place in the 2nd century BCE. In this philosophical exchange, Nāgasena employs the metaphor of a chariot to illustrate the concept of the self as an illusion. He argues that the term "chariot" does not denote a singular, hidden essence within its components; rather, it is a designation we apply when the parts—such as wheels, axle, and pole—are assembled in a particular manner. By equating the human self to the chariot, Nāgasena demonstrates that the self can operate effectively without being a fixed, enduring entity.

 

David Hume's Bundle Theory

David Hume, an 18th-century Scottish philosopher, argued that when he looked inward, he could never catch a glimpse of a permanent self, only a "bundle or collection of different perceptions" in constant flux. Hume argued that the concept of a permanent, unified "self" is a fiction of the mind. He noted that there is no "constant and invariable" impression that lasts an entire lifetime to serve as a base for the self. Hume theorized that introspection reveals no enduring self but rather a transient collection of perceptions. He maintained that when one seeks to identify a core identity, what emerges is not a singular, stable essence but a dynamic array of experiences—ranging from sensations of heat and cold to emotions like love and hatred. This led Hume to conclude that the notion of a fixed "I" is merely a construct of the mind, designed to unify these ever-changing experiences.

 

Thomas Metzinger's "Ego Tunnel" Theory

Thomas Metzinger's "Ego Tunnel" theory highlights that the brain constructs a highly convincing self-model, leading us to perceive it as reality. He suggests that while we may feel like individuals, we are essentially "being no one," experiencing a vivid simulation of identity. According to Metzinger, the concept of "I" is not a fixed entity but rather a dynamic, transparent model created by our brain. This theory emphasizes that our perception of reality is not direct; instead, the brain generates a simplified, real-time simulation or "tunnel" of the world around us.

 

"I" is a Biological Defense Mechanism

Compelling evidence for the concept of non-self emerges from neurostimulation research. The notion of the self as an illusion or mirage is prevalent in both neuroscience and philosophy, suggesting that the self is not a tangible entity but rather a mental construct. The brain generates a self-model, creating a seamless simulation of individuality that often goes unnoticed. Consequently, the "I" becomes a narrative fabrication, serving as a biological defense mechanism rather than a concrete reality.

 

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